I learnt long ago that envy is feeling unhappy of someone because he/she has something that you don't have. Jealousy is being unhappy of someone who has more than you do.
I received an email sometime ago with a friend telling me she's jealous of the friendship I have with another friend. My question is: What can I do about it? She has not responded.
Why do some people have that expectation that everything needs to given in fair amounts? Don't people have preferences? In life, there are some people that you get along better than others. I get along with most people very well. But there are only a few I share my heart with. I am generally quite open in sharing but things that are close to my heart are not as easily shared.
How do I know who I should share certain matters to? Firstly, I need to be able to feel comfortable with them. Secondly, they are mature enough to deal with information; that they can keep information to themselves, that they won't get angry and take offence on my behalf, that they are able to emphatise yet help me see a clearer picture of the situation. Most importantly, they need to be around to show that they have time to hear me out, not because they are interested in me as more than a friend, but because they value who I am as a person and that they value my friendship. Usually, when that happens, I naturally feel drawn to them. It's also like that in my romantic relationship with my exes. The more I get to share my heart, the deeper I feel for them. Maybe I give people the idea that I am a very strong person and that I don't need anyone.
There are not many friends I can share deeply with. Most of the time, when people want to meet up with me, they are either interested in me or that they have something they need from me. And for some it's pretty obvious because once I expressed that I prefer to be just friends, they don't even say hi that readily anymore, it further confirms that they are not someone I like as a partner. I believe that a good friend will make a good partner. I believe that someone naturally affectionate and someone who has love for others especially strangers will make good partners. Why? Because in the later part of the relationship, when the sexual and physical attraction may not be as strong as before, how they treat friends and strangers would be how they would treat the partner.
Anyhowz.
Even God is unfair; He chooses how much He wants to give to whoever He wants to give to but He's definitely just. We don't question His judgement because his ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts are definitely higher than our thoughts. We just pray that in time to come, we learn to know the wisdom of His plans.
So.. I need to go. More laterz.
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This is something new to me !
I didn’t know that envy and jealousy is feeling unhappy because that person has something that you don’t have or more than you do.
Maybe I just don’t compare as much or my desire isn’t that strong for all these feelings to surface.
Friends come and go. There is beginning and the end of friendship.
“Beginning and the end”, yes…beginning and the end for everything in this world created by Him.
God created heavens and earth, light and dark, morning and evening, male and female..everything created by Him comes in a pair? a cycle? Hmm, I don’t know what word to describe.
I guess, we just need to know the different friends in our life and journey the life with them. Each friend plays a different role in our life.
God is Good, God is fair..and best of all, God gave us Eternal Life just by believing in Him.
Isnt that the simplest thing to do? Believe in Him.
And isn’t that fair? At the end, we will gather at the same place and having eternal life.
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