Sunday, September 27, 2009

She is good for me

She helps me to be more environmentally conscious.
She helps me eat healthier meals.
She helps me speak better.
She helps me think more.
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Wednesday, September 23, 2009

random updates

laughed so much during CG yesterday. It was so funny! Never had so much fun in ages. I hope the rest of the women will enjoy Sunday too. :)

Got half of the children's day gifts, thanks to YM.

taught the kids how to throw a sidearm pass for frisbee. Super sexy, the way the frisbee flies. :)

40 minutes cardio today!

couldn't solve 2 of my tuition kid's math problems today!!!!!! Sheez!

THe SH's arriving @ 0040!! I hope I will be able to keep awake till then to say "WELCOME BACK, BABY!!"

learnt about the difference between an anemic person and a person with blood disorder from the doctor.

So many things to do, so little time!
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Is God telling me something through Proverbs?

I have mellowed. Or maybe I am resigned. Gone were the days where I would raise my voice at parents when I ask to meet them because their children had misbehaved repeatedly.

Today, my heart just softened. When I saw the hopelessness in the eyes of the mother, and how she called her son useless in front of me, I could not bear to raise my voice at all. I told her gently what and how she could help the son, and spoke to my pupil, her son (incorrigible one) and told him what he has to do.

SOmetimes, I am really at a loss what to do. I don't feel like punishing and scolding pupils who don't do their homework, students who don't bring their work. I speak to them sternly, yes. But will that help? For some, yes. And for those that don't, it's so tiring having to punish and scold them. The reward system works for some, but not for others. There is no perfect system. Sometimes, in order to benefit those who want to learn, we just got to move on. I have learnt that about two years ago.

Train up a child in the way he should go;
even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:6

Do not withhold discipline from a child;
if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
If you strike him with the rod,
you will save his soul from Sheol (hell).

Proverbs 23:13-14

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Monday, September 21, 2009

A morning reflection

When I woke this morning, I thought about the conversation I had with IR over dinner. We shared mostly about our journey and process in reconciling our faith and sexuality. I like hearing from fellow gay christians and I always enjoy chatting with someone much older, more mature in terms of life experiences. I learnt something in that process.. I realised also that she asked the right questions which got me sharing, so much that I didn't get to know as much about herself. In most of my interactions with people,I am often the one asking the questions. Those who can get me to share, has a skill.

That's one thing that attracted me to the SH. She asks the right questions and patiently hears me out even when I take a long time to process my thoughts over complex matters. :p She is nice to me. I feel special. That's also one essential characteristic that form the basis of my romantic attraction to someone. Someone who's able to ask the right questions and elicit responses from my complex thoughts. No. I am not attracted to IR. Hiak hiak. It takes me a lot more to be attracted to someone. The SH is the only person I want to be with.

Heard news of another break up. The relationship lasted only 3 months. Sigh.
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Sunday, September 20, 2009

Such a packed weekend

as usual. I comforted myself thinking that I am busy for a reason. Some people keep themselves occupied with so many things but they still feel emptiness. And some do not know what they really want in life and live a day at a time; born to live, having to work to live, and waiting for the day to disappear from the face of the earth.

What have I been busy with? I sat in the salon for 5 and a half hours, doing the rebonding, colouring, cut and treatment stuff. All for $200. I used to pay 300 plus for the same process. So it's a good $200 spread out over the next 9 months. I finished reading nearly every article in the Saturday's newspapers and 2 chapters of Pastor Ed's book. Sent my Gu Ma back and had a good chat with her. She's travelling again! To HK this time.

Had a good time chilling with some of the gals over BBQ and strawberry cheesecake ice-cream. So good hor, J? They were so kind to protect my 5 and a half hours long hair by asking me to stay away from the heat. So sweet... of course, that was after making fun of the 5 and a half hours, and the hair. Went home shortly after we finished all the food, chat and planning. Missed TABOO because of an online date with the SH at 10p.m. THat was my Saturday.

Sunday was service in Covenant in the morning. Gasps! The pastor's wife texted me early in the morning and said she has not seen me for a long time and asked if everything was alright. As with all early morning appointments, I had to rush so I forgot to reply her sms. She was standing outside the Sanctuary shaking hands. I acknowledged her sms. Thank God she was busy. Sent her a text message to thank her for her concern and told her I was fine. Headed to FCC where the message was about Home and Family. 4 important points on church as home and family:

1) Committment
2) Contribution
3) (forgot!!! will remember by tomorrow!)Communication!!! (see I remember)
4) Humility

Had herbal chicken for lunch. SO delicious.. Had table full of gals. Had good conversations.

Headed to Sheng Shiong @ Tekka Mall. Femme power!!! 40 minutes in the building to shop for all the food stuff! Shopped a lil @ Bencoolen then BUGIS JUNCTION. Had a snack @ YaKun with the rest of the gang who finished shopping for the games stuff too. Spotted a very big and muscular angmoh. I was pretty sure she is gay. THe rest didn't confirm. Walked around some more before heading to Park Mall's Sakae Sushi to catch up some more with K before IR came to have dinner. THen K went off for her wedding dinner. YL texted to go BB with another friend. Popped by BB till it was time to go back to see the SH online at 10p.m.. :)

More activities tomorrow, but I get to sleep in. So good...
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on Exercise and God

by the 3rd gym session this week (thanks to my dear friend), I was feeling a lil underworked though we spent the same amount of time each time, working on almost the same machines. I reckon it's prolly due to the fact that my muscles have been accustomed to the work done on them.

The function of a muscle is to permit movement and to maintain posture. When additional work is applied on a muscle, it achieves strength gains. Over a period of time, less effort is required to perform the same task because the muscle is already accustomed to the amount of weight applied. When you continue to pile on the weights, you will just get stronger.

I liken that to our walk with God. We are born with a purpose. Initially, it might be hard work to do what is good for us. But when we discipline ourselves to do what is good and right, it will be easier after a while because our capacity is enlarged every single time we train. That allows room for more growth and creates the foundation for greater things to come.

I have been talking too much with the doctor (he's gay and attached to my friend). I like the conversations we have. It stimulates me. Talking to me reminded me how much I loved Biology, Anatomy and Physiology. I googled Physiotherapy, just to explore what I could do in that line. (too much, not worth the money and time spent on studying).

0118! Got to wake up early for church! Ciaoz!
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Verse of the day ( My sister was driving me up the wall)

Good sense makes one slow to anger,
and it is his glory to overlook an offense

Proverbs 19:11
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Saturday, September 19, 2009

Of Credit cards..

I just went downstairs to hand a photocopy of my IC and my pay slip to this guy who was collecting these documents on behalf of HSBC.

I really appreciate when people follow instructions. He called before he came to say that he would be here in half an hour's. I told him to give me a call when he reaches so I can go down to pass the documents to him. I try to avoid having cookie bark as much as possible. She's kinda old already, and the last thing I want is for the neighbours to complain to HDB, HDB threatening to evict us for not removing a big dog from our flat, my dad to nag at me and me having to move out with Cookie. Moving is a very stressful event for Cookie.

I feel kinda bad asking him to call because one call would prolly cost him 10cents? They only earn $5 every time they bring back a complete set of documents and $2 if they bring back an incomplete set.

Anywayz, I agreed to sign up for the HSBC Platinum cuz of the $7 movie booklet from GV and the $1200 worth of vouchers that will be given to me once the card is approved. On top of that, there is $40 rebate for the first 4 months if I use the card. And membership is free for 2 years. It's the dining vouchers that I am looking forward to. THe rest are mostly not very useful.

There is this other card that I really like to sign up for. The OCBC platinum. My colleague who's also a foodie told me it's something like the Feed @ the Raffles Card, just that this is completely free. They give one for one buffets at the Mandarin Hotels' restaurants on weekdays. :) But I am too lazy to initiate signing up. Shall wait for them to call me. It's a good thing to have, but not important enough to go all the way out to get it.
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Friday, September 18, 2009

some randoms before showering

I have got a friend. Her gf is working in Perth. She flies there every opportunity she can to visit her gf. So fun to fly there every other month.. But so expensive lor..

Anywayz.....

I have 2 friends, a couple. One is speaking a bit like the other already, which isn't that bad since it's cute.

I have 2 friends, good friends. One is speaking in the same manner as the other. This is not too good, because she seems to catch on another's way of speaking, with that trace of scolding and nit-picking now and then.

I have 2 friends, another couple. Also one speaking in the same manner as the other. Not good too. One passed on a sarcastic sense of humour to the other.

I learnt..how important it is to be in the CONSTANT company of people who uses words of love rather than criticisms, how important it is not to hang out too much and too regularly with those with a sharp tongue unless one is aware and strong enough to resist the influence. Sometimes, the influence is just so subtle.. so very subtle..

I am getting sleepy. Am supposed to keep awake for an online date with the SH. She's in China. THe workout is great, dinner fabulous. Yum. More in the next post. Showering first.
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TGIF!

Did I ever mention? Hershey's Cookies and Cream Chocolate rawks! :) I think the taste of it is quite equivalent to an orgasimic experience. The last time I said that about food, I was trying the vanilla dip @ Equinox.. Heaven.. :)

So! I was placed in a compromising position just now. It was raining so very heavily and I decided to park at the car park just below my block instead of the one opposite the road where the season parking is bought. My first instinct was not to display any coupons. Almost immediately, I felt guilty thinking that way. Then I asked myself why I felt guilty, and whether I was being too legalistic. Afterall, the governemnt is taking our money and the amount they are taking may be too much etc etc. I was trying to rationalise as much as I could.

It wasnt' so much the $1.50 that caused me to have this conversation in my mind. I was trying to work out my convictions. THe bible is kinda clear about respecting the authorities unless it's teaching something contrary to what Jesus will do. So since the authorities made it necessary to display parking coupons, breaking it constitutes cheating. And why do I have to cheat? Do I really hold the value of money so dear? It's kinda dying to self. What causes pain reflects on how much something means to me.. So displaying coupons is the right thing to do. I shall continue to do the right thing.

Aiya. Can't explain very well. I need to rush. To the gym! Yahoo! Went to the gym Monday, Wednesday, badminton on Thursday. This is good!
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Thursday, September 17, 2009

Good reminder!

Whoever covers an offense seeks love,
but he who repeats a matter separates close friends

Proverbs 17:9
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so glad it's Thursday

it's so good to be home, truly. home from work. Just to take a reprieve before expending some calories at badminton tonight.

I want to write more but I am just too tired. Shall spend a few moments with the Lord first.

Jesus, what a beautiful name!
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Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Reading Pastor Ed's book since Phuket

He always has a way with the way he uses words. Once again, I am impressed with how he has framed his insights. I guess what's really admirable is that I have never heard or seen him do or say anything contrary to what he preaches. To me, that is the mark of a fine leader; someone who is able to walk the talk.

What I have learnt from him? To be able to see two sides of the coin, to be able to know that for most questions, there is both a yes and no response; that for most situations, there is both a maybe and maybe not explanation. I pray for the discerning wisdom of balance to respond to life's questions and challenges.

Being diplomatic or "sitting on the fence" on certain issues, I believe, helps more than harms, unless it contradicts the very CORE beliefs and values that denies the Lordship and sovereignty of God. I always try to adopt the wait and see approach. THat is equivalent to being quick to love, slow to anger and not to judge attitude, isn't it? Not my ego but His name which is most important. I don't have to be right, but He will be right eventually.

There are other more important things to be bothered about anyway.

I like these so far:

- The "anointing" may enlarge our capacities, but it is the anguish that deepens our character. A theology that cannot survive the onslaught of anguish is worthless.

- Ask any christian why Christ came to earth, and the most common answer given is,"He came to die on the cross for our sins." This is true but inadequate. While it is true that Christ came to earth to die for our sins, it is more significant to understand that Christ came, first and foremost , to glorify God, not to gratify man.

Pastor Edmund, Growing Deep in God
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Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Where is Wisdom?

On the heights beside the way,
at the crossroads she takes her stand;
beside the gates in front of the town,
at the entrance of the portals she cries aloud

Prov 8:2-3
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Late night post

I got my sotong balls. But no Strawberry cheesecake ice-cream. I think we are having that tomorrow @ CG. Heh. Yummy.

I am watching this water documentary titled FLOW on the other laptop while blogging. It is heart-wrenching to see how desperate the people in developing countries are in need of water. THey queue up just to wait for the tap to start dripping. How we take these basic things for granted over here. I am very proud of the SH for her heart for this cause, for what she is doing at work.

And I am so appreciative that I live in Singapore.

Not the arrow, nor the hammer but the lightning bolt.
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Monday, September 7, 2009

Dear Heavenly Father..

I would like to have sotong balls and Ben and Jerry's Strawberry Cheesecake ice-cream later today. Is that okay?
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The Sunday

So we decided to go to Covenant @ Woodlands because of the subsequent appointments. The SH likes Covenant @ Woodlands because it felt more at home. I am more comfortable at Covenant @ BPJ because I spent 7 of my christian years there. But I feel most comfortable at FCC. Heh. Either Covenant is okay for me.

My DG member and her husband were leading worship. Honestly, while I was mulling over church last night, I was going to tell the SH that I really prefer worshipping @ FCC because I felt at home. I could worship without any restrain and much distractions, there weren't other thoughts aside from 100 % attention on God most of the time. I was about to tell her that I would like to attend FCC after Covenant most Sundays because I would like to go to church not just to get head knowledge, but to be transformed. And worship does a lot of that for me.

When the sermon started, I had the feeling that it was more like a seminar than a sermon. But at the end of the whole service, I knew God had spoken. Thoughts were running through my head and they were in regards to some stuff that had been bothering me for the past week. That is the way this works for me; though God speaks sometimes directly through the sermon, it is the work of the Holy Spirit who pieces everything together to give insights and revelations that inspires. And when there is inspiration from God, action easily follows.

Spent some time with the SH having brunch, sharing about the service's revelations in relation to our lives before we headed off for our own programmes (to the same place though). It was 2 sessions of catch up for me over awesome dim sum and tea. I then had some shopping time with the sister. We were supposed to shop for a dress for this Wed's wedding but that wasn't successful. I was exhausted by the time the day was over. Thank God I don't have to wake up that early tomorrow.

Did some work. Chatted. Read. Blogged. Now sleep. :)
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I am so hungry now...

but it's midnight.. I prolly should just wait for breakfast.
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Sunday, September 6, 2009

It is uncanny

I thought about G yesterday. I was driving and made a mental note to text her after. But I forgot. While I was driving today, she again crossed my mind. It was then I knew I had to contact her. I stopped driving, took out my mobile phone and saw that she texted me twice. We met up today and it was a good time of sharing. When the spirit leads, follow his leading. Praying to be filled with the Holy Spirit and to be alert to His prompting. Like immediately lor.
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a yay weekend so far

SH came back! yay!
Vodka Limited Rock Edition! Yay! Yay!
Lots of catching up! Yay! Yay!
Read Proverbs together! Yay!
Prayed together! Yay!
hugs, kisses, cuddles aplenty! yay!
subway steak cheese! yay!
cold storage shopping! yay!
Balestier Bak Ku Teh! Yay!
Express Pedi! yay!
Goddaughter and Godson! Yay!
met the SH again with the rest! Yay!
Wonderful home-cooked dinner! Yay!
Played the piano together! Yay! Yay! Yay!
Great fellowship! Yay!
Old Maid! Yay!
Kisses from 5 foreign lips! Yay!
Great wine! yay!
Home sweet home! yay!
Church tomorrow! Yay! Yay! Yay!
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Thursday, September 3, 2009

Dear Aunt Agony

These are some questions I like to ask you:

1) Why do people break up and make up just as quickly?
2) Why do they seem like it's the end of the world when their relationship ends?
3) Why do people come to me with their problems?
4) How do I maintain my sanity while helping them with theirs?
5) How do I keep myself from a judgemental spirit when I hear things about another party?
6) Will I be able to be this strong for the rest of my life?
7) What happens when it's my turn to break down?
8) Will there be anyone around for me ?
9) Will there be shoulders for me to cry on?
10)Why do people trivalise their lives by placing their focus on only one thing in life?

I guess, I am okay most of the time. I can be strong most of the time when people come to me with their problems because I have experienced something similar and God always gives me the wisdom to handle the situations . THe only time when I am not, is when I am experiencing issues myself, and there seems not a similar sort of support. Instead, I find support in the most critical of persons, who loves me and treats me as family. Deeply critical but highly supportive of me. I appreciate that very much.

Yeh, I can be jaded at times too. Life goes on.
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badminton

and I couldn't go today because I was unwell, and I can't go next week because I will be away in Phuket. Bleah.

I miss badminton already and the company of the gals.

So quickly I am attached to people and things.
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A song for everything broken

When the sound of thunder roars
And the rain starts to fall
And you are feeling all alone
THe Lord God is here

When the earth shakes beneath
And your feet is not secure
And you feel yourself falling
The Lord God is here

The promises of God
are faithful and true
Hold fast to them
They will come to pass

He overcomes all obstacles
And makes things a little easier to bear
In the tunnel of darkness
light waits on the other side

He reigns sovereign
Over all purposes and plans
Out of it all
You, His beloved, the end product
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The beauty of the word of God

I am absolutely in awe of His promises for me. :)

Proverbs 2
Moral Benefits of Wisdom

1 My son, if you accept my words
and store up my commands within you,

2 turning your ear to wisdom
and applying your heart to understanding,

3 and if you call out for insight
and cry aloud for understanding,

4 and if you look for it as for silver
and search for it as for hidden treasure,

5 then you will understand the fear of the LORD
and find the knowledge of God.

6 For the LORD gives wisdom,
and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.

7 He holds victory in store for the upright,
he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless,

8 for he guards the course of the just
and protects the way of his faithful ones.

9 Then you will understand what is right and just
and fair—every good path.

10 For wisdom will enter your heart,
and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.

11 Discretion will protect you,
and understanding will guard you.

12 Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men,
from men whose words are perverse,

13 who leave the straight paths
to walk in dark ways,

14 who delight in doing wrong
and rejoice in the perverseness of evil,

15 whose paths are crooked
and who are devious in their ways.

16 It will save you also from the adulteress,
from the wayward wife with her seductive words,

17 who has left the partner of her youth
and ignored the covenant she made before God. [a]

18 For her house leads down to death
and her paths to the spirits of the dead.

19 None who go to her return
or attain the paths of life.

20 Thus you will walk in the ways of good men
and keep to the paths of the righteous.

21 For the upright will live in the land,
and the blameless will remain in it;

22 but the wicked will be cut off from the land,
and the unfaithful will be torn from it.
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Wednesday, September 2, 2009

A piece of good news

My part time teaching scheme is confirmed confirmed. They sent the letter directly to me, with the attachment on what part time teaching entails. Looking forward to that next year. God is good and faithful.
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Regarding Warfare

I was quite upset today. So I binged eat. Not to that severity that it would be considered as clinical binge eating. But I was full enough that I need not have dinner. Popped a flu pill at 4ish, showered and went to bed from 5p.m. till 9p.m. Woke up to Singapore Idol, a cup of honey and a handful of grapes. Here I am, back in bed, waiting for the SH to log on so I can rant about these 2 days to her. It's hard when she's away because I don't get to hear from her much. I feel ready to go to bed again. That is good because I have to be at work tomorrow.
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Teachers Day

P said cannot give gifts. Kids gave other stuff. Big vanguard sheet of appreciation from one of the groups in my class. Another drawing paper of appreciation from 2 students and a few cards. The kids in my class are very obedient. I can't say the same for others. It was from my PE class I received red pens, nice lil chocolates (almond rocas, toberone, hershey's kisses, and nestle cookies and cream) and chocolate cake. It was from the PSG (Parent Support Group) I received a yummy butter muffin, sweets and Milo Chocolate.

The mini-concert was less than impressive, but the beauty of it is to see the Primary One performers being able to be disciplined enough to even TRY to perform a dance on stage. That was touching and showed the hard work that has been put in to put up a decent performance. The simplicity in the performances. That much, I appreciate. Other than that, I was suffering at the back of the hall; sneezing non-stop into my already crumpled and wet piece of tissue, trying to manage my collection of cards, vanguard sheet, drawing paper, along with the stack of exam papers I had just gone through with my pupils before the concert, a single uncapped red pen and the huge cup of green tea, all with two hands and a small space under my chair. That was uncomfortable. And that happened during my hour long free period, which I would appreciate having to do my own stuff.

Ah well. THe best part of Teachers Day must be the break yesterday. Oh, I must mention that 20 over ex students came back to see me. That was a nice reunion. :) Back to work tomorrow, then Friday, then I am going to chill for the next week.
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It must be warfare

Please pray.
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Tuesday, September 1, 2009

cardio combat

was not bad. I didn't think it was that difficult, but I wasn't able to go @ 100% because of my fitness level. I can teach cardio combat too! Not difficult. Done it @ work before. I just need to work on my fitness and look a bit fitter. Heh.

So... I didn't know how much of my muscles were used till this morning. My arms and abs are aching. But as usual, it feels gooooood....

My dinner was 8 sotong balls. One was eaten by R and the other was eaten by Y. Very yummy. It's better to buy up than ask for delivery. THe price is nearly doubled and for goodness sake, they are just opposite the road from BB. I realised that thanks to their orange uniform.:)

Buy from shop : $6 for 10 sotong balls
Delivery: $11 for 10 sotong balls.

It was wonderful evening of catch up and sharing with a few peeps over a drink @ BB. Wish it was Teachers Day every other week. :)
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