My new favourite travel partner and I were surrounded by 5 butches and 3 femmes on the plane. She asked if I think butches are better in bed. Interesting question. I have no answer to that except to ask her to try since there are a few we know who are interested in her. Hiak hiak.
For me, the "butchiest" partner I had was my second gf. She would be what I consider an andro butch, not just in looks but in her mindset of roles played in a relationship. She wants to be the one who provides for me if I need. She is a preferred active in bed, her love languages are words of affirmation and acts of services, love languages typical of most butches/actives in the relationship. (I interveiwed more than a few lesbians on their love languages).
She feels most loved when her partner prepares her stuff for her before she gets to work etc. Well, in my opinion, it's nice to be spoilt but I heard that most butches do not like to be touched and they do not like to receive. I would be very miserable if I am not able to touch my partner and make my partner happy by giving to her because I am a tactile person and a natural giver. Giving makes me feel happy. Giving makes me feel more for my partner.
All things aside, if butches gets pleasure from being touched, I feel they can be good lovers in bed especially if they like to be the ones doing all the work. Hiak hiak. I believe sex is not the most important thing between 2 partners but I believe very strongly that both partners should be sufficiently satisfied, sexually. In any relationship, I feel what makes a good lover is lots of patience ( so there can be extended foreplay), lots of passion ( so both will feel desired), and more importantly, lots of love. I do think that sensitive, observant, perceptive and intuitive people make better lovers because they pick up cues quickly, follow them efficiently and hence execute actions effectively. If I have the time, I will love to do research on lesbian relationships and the dynamics in relationships. So much more fun than marking!
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