I am suffering from Insomnia. Gone is the plan to wake up early to get a workout before church. Logged onto Fridae and had someone complimented me on what I had written on the blog eons ago. I decided to copy and paste over here since it's relevant to what I had just written in the previous entry.
written in 2007. I pray to God that He has made me wiser since then!!
Why most r.s do not end on a good note..
2007-09-08 02:14
Why do most relationships not end on good terms? I think the reason is that some people are not mature enough to end relationships that are dysfunctional. They either do not want to be alone, or they need a pull factor i.e another person to come along, in order for them to end a dysfunctional relationship. It is difficult because not many people prefer to be alone.
Another reason is that the couple gets too attached to each other to break off their relationship. Even though they know they are better off not being with each other, they are not able to take that step to be apart. So day after day, week after week and month after month, they continue to be together in the dysfunctional relationship which tears each other down more than it builds them up. They become more worn out, their baggages become bigger, they develop fears and insecurities, bad habits and irrationality in the way they think. Over time, their feelings for each other fade away gradually as they began to draw apart. They stop talking because talking will only lead to arguments and arguments are draining and tiring. They rather stay away from each other and talk to others to maintain their sanity. Finally, one day, one party or the other ends up having no more feelings for the other and that party finally finds the appeal of leaving the relationship which has led her too distressed and broken. Much time is needed for healing before she grows to love again. More often than not, another person quickly comes into her life and if she is blessed, the relationship turns out well, if not, troubles and problems in the new relationship cause her baggages to surface and the burdens from before are brought forward to this next relationship. Therefore, these relationships that end cannot have the couple become friends for some time.
The more dysfunctional the relationship, the greater time it takes to heal.
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