I keep thinking about this thing I must write about my DGL. She is 41 this year and has been married for about 15 years now. Both her husband and her counsel couples before they get married. I am always interested in what she shares. According to her, the common issues that come up during marriage have mostly got to do with finances and the in-laws. That is interesting enough. However, I am always more interested to hear her share about her marriage with her husband.
She said that when they both started dating, they were so different they were at loggerheads quite often. The only 2 things that were common between both of them is their love for Christ and their stubborn natures. In their first year of marriage, they nearly killed each other (I think not literally) while learning to live with each other under the same roof.
What is really sweet is when she shares about how enriched both their lives are now through all those times. In her time as a mentor, she also follows up new believers. She shared with us her experience on how she was put in a situation where she had to follow up this married man who just became a christian. In the end, it didn't happen. She told us that for the sake of guarding her heart and her marriage, she would never follow up a man (single or married) alone.
I think it's just lovely how she guards her marriage that much even though I thought it was a rather extreme action to take. How often we take things like that for granted and put ourselves in situations where there might be temptations. One friend once told me, if there is a temptation to stray, then something is wrong in the first place. I agree with that, but it doesn't hurt not to find out if there are any temptations in the first place if you really love your partner, right?
A good sense of belief system will help prevent that. Discipline and determination, when put to use, makes a person stronger, and better.
Time to study again. Laterz.
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1 comment:
I believe that everyone, when placed in the 'appropriate' situation, is tempted to stray, even the most faithful. It's a matter of whether one falls into temptation.
On that 'appropriate' situation, I brought myself out of the situation (literally so) and talked to my partner about it. I felt that it helped strengthen the relationship and trust.
Just my half cent worth.
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