So hard to find that balance

And so.. I was catching up with a friend I had not met alone for a few months already. I guess I asked the right questions, which got her talking. It's fine with me, but in the midst of her talking ( because she speaks slowly, I had time to think), I wondered if she is like that whenever she is with her crush. If I were a crush, I would feel more special if someone asks relevant questions to engage me. No doubt people who have more to share may seem very interesting, but do interesting people make another feel special? Do you want people to hear your stories, or do you want to know others' stories? Do you want to lift yourself up and put yourself up on a pedestal or do you want the other party to feel really special? I think one of human's basic need is to know that people care about them. I guess that's when the balance comes in. Share your Interesting stories, yes, but take the time to ask questions and engage too.

Maybe I am not her crush that's why. :)
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