2 things..

I remembered these 2 guys who were very persistent in asking me to be their gfs. One is still proposing to me actually.

One thing, I always believe that as long as they are not direct about expressing their interest in me, I can't assume that they like me, and hence reject them even though I might have the vibes about their interest in me.

But after they expressed their interest, and I told them it's not possible due to one reason or another, if they still continue to pursue, I will have to be more curt in my responses to them, and less open. But they will still want to pursue. ANd I often thought, at that moment, I am quite detached, and not quite the warm and affectionate person I am with other friends. Maybe they are too caught up in the pursuit they don't see me as the detached and not so nice person I have become to them.

My ex partners will attest that I am very different as a partner and as a friend. Once I have decided that I will give my heart to someone, I am more affectionate, more expressive, and would want to spend more time with that person. It makes me wonder, whether what they were attracted to before was what they would be expecting when I am in a relationship with them? Maybe they like women who are detached and not so nice? Maybe they don't like women who are more affectionate, more expressive, more "time consuming" How ?

Interesting isn't it? I have yet to come up with a proper response to this. :)
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