It was good meeting up with the old folks at CG. Most of the people are couples. Young couples. We have pretty much been through the journey together from the time where all of us were single till now.
Thing is, I remembered them sharing their struggles being together with their then boyfriends before they got married. After they got married, the struggles did translate into some sort of problems. Then they have the phase of feeling detached from each other.. Sure, there are ups in the relationships too; the companionship.. but one of them put it right, that the downs could be quite bad. You can just shrug off a disagreement with someone who is not so close to you, but having arguments with someone who is very dear hurts to the point where the whole life could be turned upside down. Sometimes, it makes me really think whether being in a relationship is worth that much pain.
I am quite the idealist when it comes to relationships. I never want to feel detached from my partner in future. I think it's too much pain for my fragile heart.
When it comes to evaluating whether a relationship is good for a person, how much uncertainty is healthy? No one really knows, do they? Though some people may have the experiences and advice to share , it's no guarantee that their relationship will still last in future.
Even counselors may not be too helpful especially if they are straight.
I figure the best bet would be to pray and let God lead the way. Going with the peace in the heart kind of mindset seems most feasible.
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