while I was giving tuition today, the mum was home and preparing to cook. I heard the door open after a while. She went to check who that was. It was the older son. She stood there to listen to what he had to say about some stuff that happened at work, then went back to the kitchen to cook. I heard the door open again. It should be the Dad. SHe continued to work. He placed his bag down, gestured a hi to me, walked past the kitchen and into the room, got changed, came out, walked past the kitchen and sat down on the sofa and read the papers.
I could see the Mum still preparing food at the kitchen and I felt an overwhelming sense of grief for her. She must feel so lonely if this were happening everyday. What happened to the romance, the courtship, the relationship that they might have before all of these? Let's not talk about romance. How about going to the kitchen, giving the wife a peck on the cheek or forehead and thank her for taking care of the kids and for cooking? How about asking how the day was? How about just making eye contact and just looking deep into each others' eyes even if it's just for a minute to connect?
Maybe the kids helps her not to feel that lonely. Maybe that's why people have kids. Maybe that's why God arranged for couples to have kids, to learn how to keep a marriage together though in a warped way. Maybe maybe maybe.
I suddenly felt a sense of despondence at the idea of how relationships may be like in the long run. For me, my best relationship was my first, and I remembered being so in love with her even in the 5th and last year of our relationship. The best thing was, the feeling was mutual and we could both feel it and we both know it. SHe was the only person I could imagine and wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
Even though it's been nearly 3 months since the last breakup, I still can't imagine being in another relationship and I do not know how long this feeling will last. It is just exhausting thinking about it..
I usually like to think positive but I really do not know how to respond positively to this post. It's one of those days. Ah well..
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Just random thoughts as it's 3am and I still can't sleep..despite being exhausted and sick...any way,
Our parents are of a different generation..
They are Asians, and generally not too expressive...
Their 'preferred language of love' may be different from yours?
Staying together just for the sake of children, or that one has been together for x number of years...is sad if there us no love. But, one Always have a choice!
When one chooses another as life partner...in a marriage..it's for better, worse, good and bad times, sickness, health etc... Till Death do us part.
It is a choice, and a commitment, to do that... Regardless of transient emotions...of Tingly feelings, of butterflies and hearts skipping a beat...
Honeymoon or not... Love is and should be Unconditional...
Like God's love for us.
You, and only you..can decide if you want to stay in a relationship, to work at it to make it work.
If one is your soulmate, it will work out, Always.
Answer only to God, and your conscience.
No matter what, or who, if it is meant to be, as He wills it to be, It Will Be.
Who knows maybe they show their affections in the room!!! Keke
Hmmm i noticed that your first IS always the best.. up till today..did you ever thought that you might have bring these feelings and expectations of your first relationship into the second third .... relationship?
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