friends

friendships have been important to me since I was in Secondary School. The only reason why I seemed to distance myself from my friends in my first relationship was mostly because we were closeted, and of course, being in a relationship for the first time for the both of us brings about this exclusivity. It felt like only the two of us existed in our own world.

Over time, with age, experience and all that crap, I have learnt to take things slow in the department of love and continue to set aside time for others. Afterall, why rush things when we have a lifetime. More on that in another post. Maybe the only person who might be upset would be the SH, because I do give almost equal attention to friends and her though I place her in higher priority. Is equal attention and higher priority not the same thing? No, they are different. More in another post. But I thank God she has been ultra understanding; willing to meet new people though she may not feel like socialising. She's sweet. And mature. And I like that.

It's like my free time divided into 2 parts. 50% for the SH, and 50% for family and friends. That's not too bad right? For my first r/s with a woman, it was almost 80% with my ex and 20 % with family and friends. For the second r/s with a woman, it was 70% with my ex and 30% with family and friends.

There are however, certain friends who are difficult to keep. i tend to give up when I felt that I have tried to keep in touch repeatedly and there seems I am upset becuase I have little time and I am taking the effort to keep in touch. Of late, I have been following the spirit's leading when I run out of time. People that come to mind, or people who calls me to meet is all classified under divine appointments.

I have been disappointed quite a few times this past month by friends, including one or two I care a lot for. And I hope I had not disppointed any of my friends the same way I had been disappointed. I seldom need to ask people for help and prayer, and when I do, it's really urgent and it means a lot to me that my friends are concerned. I am touched by the concern shown by quite a few. THanks for the calls and all the encouragement.
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