Wait. God is not a spoilsport.

there's this friend of mine. She is still recovering from a one year r/s that she went through. For 8 months already. 8 months is a long time. That probably means that the relationship was very intense. Of course, she did say that that was the first woman she has been with. But both of them were friends for 5 years before they got together, and the relationship was still that intense.

Putting all these information together made me think of the reason why I got physically intimate with the people whom I was attracted to rather quickly instead of waiting. I guess the initial feeling of "being in lust/love" is addictive, and it felt good that the other party felt the same way, and wanted the same thing. I guess we didn't want those feelings to fade off without acting on them.

Hearing my friend's story gave me the encouragement that the feelings do not just fade off. Or maybe they do? But real love not influenced by a sense of counterfeit closeness together with intensity is better than just lust and intensity? Self-control is prolly better especially when premature intimacy most likely brings about more complications than good. And I guess I learnt the importance of waiting through my own experiences.

This also makes me relate to how we often want things at our own timing rather than wait for God's perfect timing. It's as if we are telling God that He doesn't know what is good for us, and that we know best what is good for ourselves. But God knows best, doesn't He? And He is supposedly not a spoilsport. Trust in Him, I will continue to train myself to do so. Phew!
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