Friday, October 17, 2008

my gay colleague who gay-bashed

I am a little troubled. I have a colleague whom I suspect is gay. Everyone suspects he is gay too. But he says he has a girlfriend though no one has seen his girlfriend before.

That is not a problem if he is closeted and needs to hide his identity.

What is disturbing is that he shared about his disgust and shock when he visited a gay pub (TAboo) for the first time. ANd he went on and on and on. I feel disturbed hearing him gaybash.

I was sitting beside him with a few colleagues around us. After I heard him speak like that for a while, I turned to my other colleague and participate in a conversation with her instead. I felt so so so uneasy inside.

What would I have done if it was me? I wouldn't have shared about my preference for women. That's for sure. But I wouldn't go gay women bashing too. Sigh. I do feel a bit disappointed. Maybe I was hoping to find someone @ work where I can be out too. But I doubt that is going to happen anytime soon.

I can swear that he is gay, though I wouldn't. So gay. My gaydar beeped the first time I saw him and the beep gets louder the more I get to know him. I doubt I am wrong.
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