One new thing that I realised is very important in a relationship is the maturity of the partner. I am not talking about maturity in age nor spiritual maturity (though I think that could help in adding on to wisdom and emotional maturity).
Resilience is much needed. Not so strong that it takes the place of affection and warmth, but strong enough so emotional blackmail and childish-ness do not take place.
My take on this: If you are not strong enough to manage your own emotions (which is totally normal and okay if you manage to work things out between yourself and God and not implicate others), it is quite likely you will act childish/ do childish things (which is okay too because being childish sometimes is cute too, sometimes), but not for me because I flee from emotional blackmail and childish-ness that comes from attention-seeking (which is okay too if my emotional bank is full). I love to give you know.
A person who is also younger also has some licence to be childish (and it's cute too, once again). But imagine someone older (say their mid-thirties onwards); How can you say you are ready for a relationship when you need a younger potential partner to be (not even a partner yet) to take care of your emotions?? I find that a turn off actually. I would still be a friend and see if I can help to make them feel better in any way possible, but to still see them as a potential partner? No way. I feel like I am writing this in a very harsh tone and it may come across as being condescending but it's pure honesty on my part. Maybe it's also because I am PMSsing, and also because I am irritated by something recent that has happened.
Sigh. Maybe that's why I think older women are attractive because I like that resilience in them, so my emotions get taken care of too. Hiak hiak. Of course, if I date someone younger, that will also mean I will feel a greater sense of responsiblity taking care of their emotions lor........
But no younger women for me unless Cupid strikes. Even then, I will be thinking twice, maybe thrice. Thanks you very much. Let me get through ALL my marking before I write more.
Ciaoz.
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OUCH, ouch and oucchhh :P
Does age really matters? Hmm..
(thinking once, thinking twice,….thinking thrice….)
I always find young and older women attractive and interesting in their own unique ways.
Someone who are older with their simple childishness are just so endearing to me. Hehe.
Of course not everyday being childish lah..Their childishness is just so different comparing to the younger ones.
Maybe because their experiences in life had contributed to the person they are today that their childishness is just so different and special??
but yeah, there are times when some childishness you just find them as nightmaresssss
Anyway, I believe Jesus will send you someone older but young at heart, or someone young but heart with full maturity. Amen !
Okay, so now, let’s pray. (Cupid, cupid, where are you….?)
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