will they relent one day?

Just read the article that was posted on Fridae and this was the headline:

The Singapore Catholic Church says it does not support the repeal of laws that criminalise gay sex acts, and “persons with homosexual tendencies (orientation)… should refrain from irresponsible sexual acts.”

two words/phrases noted were "should" instead of "must" and "refrain from irresponsible sexual acts" as opposed to "refrain from sexual acts"

They further gave examples in these exact words: "that it does not mean that if one is heterosexual, he or she can express this irresponsibly in any way he or she wants. Similarly the Church does not condemn persons with homosexual tendencies (orientation) but asks that they like anyone should refrain from irresponsible sexual acts."

The feel I get from the response is that they are trying their best to give a balanced point of view, and if what I perceive is true, then I applaud them for trying. Could that mean then, that the above statement could imply that responsible sexual acts are okay? Who decides what is responsible and what is not? What is the benchmark we should set our standards against? Did the bible define irresponsible and responsible sexual acts? The need for an absolute truth is so important, isn't it?

Maybe that's why others perceive being gay as being promiscuous? Instead of waiting to be sure that a couple is ready to be with each other for life and then sleep together, couples decide that they will work at the commitment to spend their lives together because they had slept together, either because they feel responsible or they feel more attached to each other after being intimate. which are not bad things, but those might not make for a strong foundation for a lifelong relationship.

I am not saying this doesn't happen in a heterosexual world but because we are a minority doing something supposedly different and supposedly wrong brings us into the limelight, so every little thing that is wrong is highlighted so that it is more apparent that being gay is wrong.

Honestly, I think that if the heterosexual world (especially that world of christians) have premarital sex as quickly as couples who are gay, the whole world will be in chaos. From my current myopic point of view, I thank God that the proportion of heterosexuals is much greater for the health and growth of the nation.

Question: How many gay dating couples actually wait for at least a year before they sleep together? I have never waited that long honestly. I find it extremely difficult to wait if the person I am attracted to is also attracted to me. I am not proud to admit this given the "strong" christian values that I keep wanting to adhere to. I question my authenticity as a christian many times.

So do they sleep together too quickly because they have too high a testosterone? Or that they won't get pregnant or they won't be able to make their partners pregnant? Is it the fear of loss of that someone special or the fear that that special moment will pass ?

Of late, I realised the importance of waiting. All the books I used to read (when I was a younger christian dreaming of the perfect marriage) came to life. And it's true, that when someone is so important to another, and they know they will one day spend the rest of their lives together, they will take their time. Since they have a lifetime together, why do they want to rush?

Though I am not chaste as I want to be, I really do believe that it's such a sweet thing to wait till 2 persons make the commitment to want to spend their lives together before they sleep with each other, and not because their emotions and sex drive drives them, but rather they know that they want to make that commitment to spend the rest of their lives together.

Is it possible that christian gay couples uphold the integrity of what God intends for a lifelong relationship and date the proper way so that we can be blameless? Then truly, the only issue the "mainstream" christians have against the gay christians would be the 6 passages in the bible?
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