one reason why I don't bother about certain people that much

I believe there can be a stage of a few months to a year that someone can be in a depressed, needy and whiny mode because of some circumstance that has happened. But I also believe that people should quickly move beyond their circumstances especially when they know of a God so big that He can solve all problems, in His time.

I believe we can only help people who wants to be helped. There are people who persist on sharing the same sort of problems, dwelling on the same issue over and over again, either because of their reluctance to step out of their comfort zone, their unwillingness to commit their situation to God and rest or that they merely want attention or have an ego-booster.

Maybe they do not see how God can help them through the situation. Maybe they don't really want to change the way things are. Unfortunately, for cases like that, I can only tolerate up to a certain extent, especially when I can't see how they might want a friendship other than having their needs met.

That's very unchristian way of thinking. But I am working on it. And I am sure God will work on me in this area. It's regardless of how people are like, it's how we should be like as followers of Christ. But that aside, certain groups of people are wired to have that level of patience with people like that. Not me.

My ex DGL was just sharing how she can't have the energy to keep up with someone/a couple for more than 1-2 years. (She's a counselor). However, she said her husband complemented her that way, that he has the patience to be with his counselee for 3-4 years. Wow. I am amazed. This kind of person inspires me to be better.
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