What I learnt

I hear some friends share that the two type of women they wouldn't date are straight women and women who had not been in a relationship before. I can understand their perspective and I do agree with them to some extent, but it doesnt' negate that fact that many of these women are in happy relationships that last longer than some other gay relationships.

I thought about a few friends I have in this journey of discovering themselves. They are learning new things about themselves after accepting their sexual orientation, learning about the type of partner they prefer, coming up with their convictions of how they want to live their lives, the person they want to be, the type of relationship which is good for them.. All these require some form of trial and error. Experience helps in helping to figure out what is good and what is not, that is if they are not already broken from negative experiences.

I am just praying that in the haphazard way of bumping around to find out about their new selves, that they do not say and do things that they would regret or break too many hearts in the process. I have to say though, that mistakes made and learnt from always have some value in them, that is if they are taken with the right perspective.

My advice is just to wait and let God, who knows who's best and what's best for you, bring someone into your path. Of course, in order not to miss what He has in store for you, stay close to Him so the mind and the heart can be aligned to His. He is never late.

This is one of my favourite song.

Everything In Its Time - Corinne May

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VtOh-8zEUqA

Sometimes I wonder what lies ahead
How long till my hunger is fed
They say it's hard to make it in this part of town
So many people on this merry-go-round

Some folks try astrology
Some turn to crystal balls
To find an answer,
To get through it all
I just fall on my knees and I try to pray
In the silence I can hear Him say

The river runs and the river hides
Out to the ocean and under the sky
I promise you, the answer will come
Hold on to patience and watch for the sign
Everything in its time

I often feel like I'm two steps behind
Somebody must have moved that finish line
There are a thousand reasons
Why I should give up
But I'm stubborn in the things I believe

The river runs and the river hides
Out to the ocean and under the sky
I promise you, the answer will come
Hold on to patience and watch for the sign

'cause maybe there's another plan
One I still can't see
A little surprise, like your love in my life
Funny how time changes how we see

The river runs and the river hides
Out to the ocean and under the sky
I promise you, the answer will come
Hold on to patience and watch for the sign
Everything in its time
Everything in its time
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