It's good to be prepared before you get into a relationship. It's not wise to start preparing only when you get into a relationship. I feel that there are certain basic qualitites one needs to have as an individual before they get into a relationship. I also believe that there are certain basic qualitites that one should have when they are in a relationship with someone else.
Someone said I complicate love. What is love anyway? If love is an emotion, then yes, I complicate love. But I believe love is more than a feeling. I believe that true love is a willingness to die to a certain part of yourself in order to make your partner happy. Love is an effort, and love deals with real issues.
My friend asked me to elaborate more so here I am. Laterz. Need to settle some stuff first.
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Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Smokers
I am not discriminating against smokers. I have good friends who are smokers. And I stand with them sometimes when they hang out to smoke.
Thing is, my nose is allergic to smoke/dust/fur. I sneeze when there is a sudden amount of smoke/dust/fur that comes my way. After a few minutes of persistent smoking/dusting and furring, my airways get inflamed and my nose starts to clog up. It's a very uncomfortable feeling. Hence, no smokers for me.
Even if I were not allergic to smoke, I tend to be attracted to someone who smells nice. I am sure that is so for many people, right?
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Thing is, my nose is allergic to smoke/dust/fur. I sneeze when there is a sudden amount of smoke/dust/fur that comes my way. After a few minutes of persistent smoking/dusting and furring, my airways get inflamed and my nose starts to clog up. It's a very uncomfortable feeling. Hence, no smokers for me.
Even if I were not allergic to smoke, I tend to be attracted to someone who smells nice. I am sure that is so for many people, right?
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Over a conversation with friend 1
She: How do you find AAA?
Me: She reminds me of one of my ex. Better as a friend than a partner.
She: How about BBB? Why don't you consider BBB since she's interested?
Me: She smokes. And...
She: Are you giving yourself reasons why you don't want to date her?
Me: Honestly, I can never date a smoker. BBB is attractive and I can see myself being attracted to her, She's pretty nice and sensible too. But I can't see myself being with her as a partner.
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I was so tempted to tell "She" the reason why I am closed to everyone else.
My heart is already reserved for you.
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Me: She reminds me of one of my ex. Better as a friend than a partner.
She: How about BBB? Why don't you consider BBB since she's interested?
Me: She smokes. And...
She: Are you giving yourself reasons why you don't want to date her?
Me: Honestly, I can never date a smoker. BBB is attractive and I can see myself being attracted to her, She's pretty nice and sensible too. But I can't see myself being with her as a partner.
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I was so tempted to tell "She" the reason why I am closed to everyone else.
My heart is already reserved for you.
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Monday, February 27, 2012
Interesting questions
Watching the movie "This is War" brought several questions to mind:
1) is it possible to love two persons at the same time?
2) do people tend to be attracted to the charismatic, smooth or suave sort of people more so than the nice, sweet, mature and responsible kind of people?
Will answer the questions later.
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1) is it possible to love two persons at the same time?
2) do people tend to be attracted to the charismatic, smooth or suave sort of people more so than the nice, sweet, mature and responsible kind of people?
Will answer the questions later.
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Crossroads at work
Invilgilation always gives time to think, reflect and pray.
I really like to work under my ex P. but somehow, something in my heart is holding me back from asking her if there's vacancy at her school though she has told me before there is. When I think about reasons why I should leave, I can't find any. It feels like God is holding me back in this school, for whatever reason I don't know. Guess I will know in time to come.
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I really like to work under my ex P. but somehow, something in my heart is holding me back from asking her if there's vacancy at her school though she has told me before there is. When I think about reasons why I should leave, I can't find any. It feels like God is holding me back in this school, for whatever reason I don't know. Guess I will know in time to come.
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Saturday, February 18, 2012
Insights and revelations
I am inspired twice today. Once by the book I am currently reading: the great omission. It's about discipleship. I know it's a good book when every other sentence I read cause me to think for a few minutes and then I get inspired. This very passage speaks my ethos for my Christian faith:
"Spiritual formation is the process of increasingly being possessed and permeated by these character traits (the fruit of love: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control) as we walk in the easy yolk of discipleship with Jesus our teacher. From the inward character the deeds of love then naturally-but supernaturally- and transparently flow. Of course, there will always be room for improvement, so we need not worry that we will become perfect- at least for a few weeks or months. Our aim is to be pervasively possessed by Jesus through constant companionship with him."
And while having a conversation with a friend, she shared that she has just ended a dating relationship which is maybe one month old? That's fast, I thought. I asked her why. And she said that the girl is nice, cute and mature for her age,yet she doesn't think they are good together in the long run. So better to end now and preserve the friendship.
I salute the active measures she takes. I think it takes a vey mature and secure person to be able to do that. And it's not because that gal she was dating is ugly! She's pretty cute and intelligent. I know her too. It's good that the reason for her to be in the relationship is because she doesn't want to be alone/someone else has come along/that girl is good to have. Wow.
For me, something similar happened in my previous relationship, just that I didn't end it then. I moved on to a relationship because i felt we could work things out. It's as if i am shopping and buying clothes that are half a size smaller thinking i will lose weight. Hehe.
During dating, I sensed that we weren't compatible, but because we have started to be intimate then (not all the way), I felt responsible. Moreover, I considered that we could help each other grow with our different strengths. Ah well. I know better now with this sudden unexpected revelation from a friend.
It's so nice over here at the Starbucks at the promenade.. I can sit here forever having these moments of time with God, worshipping, reading, reflecting, praying and writing. It is just too cold. Bought my second drink and shall attempt to sit outside again. The cool breeze is refreshing! For another half an hour! :)
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"Spiritual formation is the process of increasingly being possessed and permeated by these character traits (the fruit of love: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control) as we walk in the easy yolk of discipleship with Jesus our teacher. From the inward character the deeds of love then naturally-but supernaturally- and transparently flow. Of course, there will always be room for improvement, so we need not worry that we will become perfect- at least for a few weeks or months. Our aim is to be pervasively possessed by Jesus through constant companionship with him."
And while having a conversation with a friend, she shared that she has just ended a dating relationship which is maybe one month old? That's fast, I thought. I asked her why. And she said that the girl is nice, cute and mature for her age,yet she doesn't think they are good together in the long run. So better to end now and preserve the friendship.
I salute the active measures she takes. I think it takes a vey mature and secure person to be able to do that. And it's not because that gal she was dating is ugly! She's pretty cute and intelligent. I know her too. It's good that the reason for her to be in the relationship is because she doesn't want to be alone/someone else has come along/that girl is good to have. Wow.
For me, something similar happened in my previous relationship, just that I didn't end it then. I moved on to a relationship because i felt we could work things out. It's as if i am shopping and buying clothes that are half a size smaller thinking i will lose weight. Hehe.
During dating, I sensed that we weren't compatible, but because we have started to be intimate then (not all the way), I felt responsible. Moreover, I considered that we could help each other grow with our different strengths. Ah well. I know better now with this sudden unexpected revelation from a friend.
It's so nice over here at the Starbucks at the promenade.. I can sit here forever having these moments of time with God, worshipping, reading, reflecting, praying and writing. It is just too cold. Bought my second drink and shall attempt to sit outside again. The cool breeze is refreshing! For another half an hour! :)
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Friday, February 17, 2012
From reading the OT
I am so glad that Jesus came so I don't have to see too much blood and handle animals like they used to as my sin offering.
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