When you don't believe in the right one, and you don't believe in happily ever after, it's easy to settle for second best, to take what you feel is good and what is nice without considering if it is for the best. It's easy to live recklessly and take what comes along the way without much consideration. Will you treasure something you didn't pay a high price for? Would you work to keep it alive?
Similarly, when you believe in the right one and you believe in happily ever after, you will hold back and reserve your best for the person you know God has prepared for you.. in the process, you are being prepared for the right one too.
The right one doesn't mean the perfect one. The right one simply means that when it's finally time for you to need to try, that when you lose the desire and the fire you had before, you love enough to want to try your best to keep the love going. And this stage I believe, is best experienced a few years into the relationship, simply because I believe that the honeymoon period must last a few years. That will take the lust factor out of the equation. Bravo if the lust factor will never be lost. ;0
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Thursday, January 19, 2012
a sudden realization from her comment on another's post
the reason why I was able to let go was not because I rationalised the decision.
It was because the heart was too tired to try any longer.
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It was because the heart was too tired to try any longer.
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Friday, January 13, 2012
Love languages- thinking beyond
and so, I do think that a person's love language changes over time.
There could be several reasons. Here are the possible ones:
1) One person who's lonely might think that their love language is quality time.
2) A person who's busy may not think that their love language is quality time
3) When one has more than enough love from their primary and secondary source, they might think that their primary and secondary love language has changed.
4) If one's primary love language was gifts, they might think differently once they have enough money to buy gifts for themselves.
Mine has been pretty consistent. They are:
1) Physical Touch
2) Quality Time
3) Gifts
4) Words of affirmation
5) Acts of service
A was reading a love language books for married couples. I told her that I like to borrow after that. She said it's for married couples. I said it was okay. She still thinks that being gay is wrong though she has told me she doesn't judge me. But she had subtlely told me that I could borrow 2 of her books she bought at last week's service where an ex-transgendered man preached about how God had changed him. Haiyah.
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There could be several reasons. Here are the possible ones:
1) One person who's lonely might think that their love language is quality time.
2) A person who's busy may not think that their love language is quality time
3) When one has more than enough love from their primary and secondary source, they might think that their primary and secondary love language has changed.
4) If one's primary love language was gifts, they might think differently once they have enough money to buy gifts for themselves.
Mine has been pretty consistent. They are:
1) Physical Touch
2) Quality Time
3) Gifts
4) Words of affirmation
5) Acts of service
A was reading a love language books for married couples. I told her that I like to borrow after that. She said it's for married couples. I said it was okay. She still thinks that being gay is wrong though she has told me she doesn't judge me. But she had subtlely told me that I could borrow 2 of her books she bought at last week's service where an ex-transgendered man preached about how God had changed him. Haiyah.
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Thursday, January 12, 2012
Isaiah 55:9
I had a racist thought. Very terrible. Shall confess over here.
In the past 2 years, I had considered teaching at the MOE international school at Hk. Primary reason was because I have grown to love HK. I was even seeing HK as the new Australia. The secondary reason was that a change in environment could be refreshing.
But as always, I know my plans are not God's plans for me so I dont really plan very much except to keep the thought at the back of my mind. Moreover, I have to be teaching if I want the masters education to be free. With the one year bond upon graduation 2 years later, I thought I had to be around for at least 3 years.
In my recent trip, I finally got a chance to visit BMCF and spoke to Ming. He used to be an MOE teacher and he mentioned that I can serve my bond while at the MOE international school at Hk. I got excited because that means one year earlier to going if I do go. Upon learning that the travel mate is teaching in Canadian International School, he mentioned that the Canadian International School is located just beside the MOE HK school. In the big big land of HK, it is really an amazing fact isn't it? The travel mate also got excited. Not that we never talked about working at HK before since we both love HK much. Then the plan seemed more real. Like it might actually happen. And the money we will be able to save being able to house together.
Then, today I thought about what I had to wear while working in HK. I honestly give thanks every morning that I am a PE teacher and all it takes is 10 mins to get ready for work. I thought about my dressing over there, wondering if I will be teaching only the core subjects or whether I can go as a PE teacher, but the number of PE teachers a school needs is limited then that was when a racist kinda stereotype came to mind. Many PE teachers are Malays. Keke. They won't want to go to HK right? :p
But again, like I said, I don't know what God's plans are. I guess I will know closer to the time, as always.
And I am also reminded to seriously pray and commit a plan in the area of ministry to God, knowing that He will lead the way if the time is right.
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In the past 2 years, I had considered teaching at the MOE international school at Hk. Primary reason was because I have grown to love HK. I was even seeing HK as the new Australia. The secondary reason was that a change in environment could be refreshing.
But as always, I know my plans are not God's plans for me so I dont really plan very much except to keep the thought at the back of my mind. Moreover, I have to be teaching if I want the masters education to be free. With the one year bond upon graduation 2 years later, I thought I had to be around for at least 3 years.
In my recent trip, I finally got a chance to visit BMCF and spoke to Ming. He used to be an MOE teacher and he mentioned that I can serve my bond while at the MOE international school at Hk. I got excited because that means one year earlier to going if I do go. Upon learning that the travel mate is teaching in Canadian International School, he mentioned that the Canadian International School is located just beside the MOE HK school. In the big big land of HK, it is really an amazing fact isn't it? The travel mate also got excited. Not that we never talked about working at HK before since we both love HK much. Then the plan seemed more real. Like it might actually happen. And the money we will be able to save being able to house together.
Then, today I thought about what I had to wear while working in HK. I honestly give thanks every morning that I am a PE teacher and all it takes is 10 mins to get ready for work. I thought about my dressing over there, wondering if I will be teaching only the core subjects or whether I can go as a PE teacher, but the number of PE teachers a school needs is limited then that was when a racist kinda stereotype came to mind. Many PE teachers are Malays. Keke. They won't want to go to HK right? :p
But again, like I said, I don't know what God's plans are. I guess I will know closer to the time, as always.
And I am also reminded to seriously pray and commit a plan in the area of ministry to God, knowing that He will lead the way if the time is right.
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Sunday, January 8, 2012
From QT
So an argument broke out between the herdsmen of Abram and Lot. At that time Canaanites and Perizzites were also living in the land.Then Abram talked it over with Lot. "This arguing between our herdsmen has got to stop," he said. "After all, we are close relatives! I'll tell you what we'll do. Take your choice of any section of the land you want, and we will separate. If you want that area over there, then I'll stay here. If you want to stay in this area, then I'll move on to another place." Genesis 13: 7-9
THe first immediate insight that came after reading this passage was a reminder that especially as leaders, how it is necessary to take charge of conflicts/arguments of the people you are placed in charged of. In times of conflicts, the leader got to rise up, take charge and settle the matter cleanly with the other leader. That's the lesson I take out from this passage. Love it when the bible comes alive.
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THe first immediate insight that came after reading this passage was a reminder that especially as leaders, how it is necessary to take charge of conflicts/arguments of the people you are placed in charged of. In times of conflicts, the leader got to rise up, take charge and settle the matter cleanly with the other leader. That's the lesson I take out from this passage. Love it when the bible comes alive.
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Wednesday, January 4, 2012
While eating an unripe banana in Sri Lanka
It's a good thing to wait. Just as unripe bananas taste sour, undried paintings smudges, uncooked eggs raw, so it is when we rush things without knowing God's perfect timing for our lives.
It is the process of waiting that moulding takes place, that one grows to be solid, a sweet and whole masterpiece, refined, prepared to bring Him the highest glory.
There was this moment when I felt an overwhelming depth of love for Jesus as I watched in amazement how the mist rose from below the mountains till it drifted upwards towards us, towards the sky.
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It is the process of waiting that moulding takes place, that one grows to be solid, a sweet and whole masterpiece, refined, prepared to bring Him the highest glory.
There was this moment when I felt an overwhelming depth of love for Jesus as I watched in amazement how the mist rose from below the mountains till it drifted upwards towards us, towards the sky.
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